I have to admit that I enjoy flipping absentmindly through my different social media sites. I like doing so because it isn't very taxing on my attention until something sparks my interest. Sometimes these sparks can be made by a friend's update, any sort of confrontation (I enjoy popcorn in these situations), or a thought-provoking quote that makes me think about my existence in a fuller sense.
Quite recently as I was scrolling through my facebook, even though I just checked it on my phone (we've all done it, no outward judgement) and I came across a quote that changed how I thought about priorities.
The quote was this; "No one is really ALWAYS busy. It just depends on what number you are on their priority list."
BAM.
Now let that sink in.
I know, I know, people get busy. Adulting is actually sort of time consuming. Life decides to step in and shake things up every once in a while. However, throughout all the storms and unexpected occurances that can happen, the fact remains; No one is really ALWAYS busy.
I will use myself as an example. Because writing is always better when done closer to home.
I get pretty busy sometimes, less so nowadays because I am taking a semester off from school, but before I had a hard time looking for some free time. But then I think about all the time I spend writing, watching Netflix, extra time laying in bed when I should really get up because now I am going to be gross because I won't have time to take a shower, etc.
And when people would ask me if I wanted to go out and do something, I would be able to find an excuse if I wanted to.
"Sorry, I have this paper due tomorrow."
"Wayyyy too much homework."
"I need to get a good night's sleep."
"I am not going to see the Justin Bieber movie."
However one day my friend from the U was having a rough day, and I dropped EVERYTHING and spent the day with her. I missed a class, procrastinated my homework, I made time for her. Because she was my priority.
It's very true that everyone has different priorities, whether work will always come first or school is the most important thing right now, we all have things we see to be of higher value. Now priorities are always fluctuating, and that's okay.
I mean, when I was younger the most important thing was that I became a beautiful black barbie when I grew up (true story) but now it's more important to me that I make my bills on time (plus found out you can't become a barbie... sad).
The point is that as we change, our priorities change with us. Sometimes within the change however, we can loose the focus of what really is important to us. When we know what we want out of life, we can then more accurately gage what we want to spend our time and efforts on.
Where I am working right now I have the morning schedule, which usually means I'm home by noon or 2pm (at the latest). Now coming from a workaholic who has only worked nights and graveyards until this employment, it's pretty much the best thing in the world. MORNING SHIFTS ROCK PEOPLE. *Biased opinion*
Anyway, because it is only mornings, I only work part-time. Going back to the whole workaholic issue, I am used to working more and in turn making a lot more of them moneys that I like.
(Money can't buy happiness but it buys food. Which is kind of the same thing.)
Being part-time means less moneys but more time to spend on personal connections, i.e. family relations, long-distance communication, and relationships.
Anyway, I had a friend who recently got a promotion and so her boss-man was looking for someone to replace her full-time. Someone bilingual. Someone who wants to work all the time. Someone who likes counting money as a past-time favorite. So basically someone like me.
And she offered to help me get an interview, because I would be good at it. However more time spent working is less time spent with the people in my life. With more moneys of course.
So basically it came down to what my priorities right now in my life are, time or money. I went through my usual process, calculated how much money I would get, imagined what it would be like, made it seem like it would be better than it would actually be, got stressed, talked to my parents, recieved wise advice, tried to combat said advice, eventually came to a conclusion.
Which was, right now, my priority is spending time with my family, friends, and making these memories while I have the chance.
Was that the wrong choice, eh, who knows. God knows. God knows everything. He's like Santa Claus, with less of an eating disorder.
That's my post for today. And if you are feeling stressed, maybe you are just not focusing on the most important things. You are under no obligation to be the same person you were five minutes ago. And with that, your priorities are under no obligation to be under the same order they were five minutes ago either.
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